Back in my other life, things were not always easy. I was a divorced mother of three, trying hard to make ends meet. One day I met a guy who was a charmer, he literally swept me off my feet--we were married within 6 weeks. He moved in, and two days later he came home and told me he had been laid off from his job. I of course, just patted his hand,and said, ok, we can get by until you find another one.
A month went by, then another, and another, and he made no effort to find work. But I was still all in love, so I just tried my best to be optimistic. Then one day, the credit union called and said I had no insurance on my car, and if I didn't get some, they would repossess it. When I protested that I had paid the premium, they said, "Call your insurance company." and so I did.
The insurance company said no payment had been received in three months. A little bell went off in my head, as I called each place I owed and was told the same thing. I had been writing checks, and he had been throwing them away and taking the money out of the bank!!!
I went home and confronted him with all this, and he went into a rage. He beat me up and hit my son. I put the kids in the car and left, and never looked back. I was so depressed and so in debt, and had no place to live. How could I have been so stupid?? After four months of marriage to this creep, I was in serious trouble financially and in jeopardy of losing custody of my children!
At about this time, I went to visit a very dear friend named Tom, who had always been so nice to me. As soon as I walked in the door, I broke down in sobs, and cried for most of the night.
Tom just held me in his arms and comforted me, as he played "Bridge Over Troubled Water". Every time I hear that song, I think of Tom and how nice he was to me that night.
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